I’ll be 110% honest, nothing went the way I wanted it to until the day of my best friend’s bachelorette party. I will also fully admit, I hold everything I do to a ridiculously high standard. I mean, it’s my best friend’s wedding, how could I not!? Despite having some hiccups, it turned out fantastic and my best friend told me that she bragged to everyone at work on Monday.
I had all of these grand ideas when I first started planning and really wanted to give her the greatest party ever. I wanted to rent a cabin near Moraine State Park and I found the perfect cabin. I also wanted to surprise her. Well, after talking to the other two bridesmaids, we decided it wouldn’t be the best decision and I had to ask my best friend what she reallyyy wanted. It turns out, she just wanted to go to dinner and hang out at her place afterwards. I took what she wanted and made it an amazing day for her with the help of the bridesmaids.
This might be a little ridiculous to admit, but…after being hung up on wanting to have the party at the cabin, I realized, this is totally about her and not what I want for her. It’s easy to get caught up in what you think other people would like. It was selfish of me to feel this way in the beginning, so don’t let it happen to you. In the end, I worked with what she desired most for that day and made it as much of a surprise as possible.
First, we went to a place called “Color Me Mine” where you paint pottery. After that, we went to dinner at BJ’s Brewhouse. We ended the night at her place with drinks and a couple games (pin the junk on the hunk, anyone?). We gave her gifts that would compliment every aspect of her wedding. We got her a few items from Lush for “relaxing before or after the wedding”, a Victoria’s Secret gift card for “the honeymoon”, a picture frame from her registry for “the wedding”, and photo of the four of us from the bridal shower for “memories”.
When I put in charge as Maid of Honor, I had no idea what I was getting myself into (and still really don’t…ha) and did as much research as I could about bachelorette parties. Pinterest was a huge help.
After this amazing opportunity to plan the perfect day to celebrate my best friend’s “last fling before the ring”, here is my advice to plan the perfect bachelorette party.
1. It’s Her Day
Ask the bride what she wants. When you were 19 and partied like crazy drunken fools, you talked hypothetically what you would want at your future bachelorette party. It most likely doesn’t apply now that you’re 25 and chilled out on the drunken-fool-ness. Not every bride-to-be wants a crazy night or a night out. I knew from the get-go she didn’t want to go to Pittsburgh’s crazy party area of town (South Side) or anything like that. I agreed. After the cabin plan didn’t work out, I asked her what she really wanted and I was able to tweak it and make it better than she expected. So, I cannot stress enough, ask her what she wants!!
2. Look on Pinterest
Pinterest is full of great ideas. A lot of the ideas I found are geared towards to a large group of bridesmaids. We certainly weren’t going to do a scavenger hunt or split up into groups for a game, but there are other games/activity ideas that might fit your group. I got the idea for the hangover kits from Pinterest and tweaked it as needed.
3. Small Gifts
I chose to put together a hangover kit for everyone. I bought these bags on Etsy and these hair ties (which happened to match her wedding colors) with the personalized card from Etsy also. I absolutely love Etsy for unique things like this. Every seller I have dealt with has been so nice and helpful. I also included a couple small pieces of chocolate, nail polish, Emergen-c, hand sanitizer, and lip balm. They loved these kits! Gifts for the bridesmaids don’t have to expensive or extravagant, they will love anything unique and simple.
4. Fine Tune the Details
Go over all of the details as early as possible with the bridesmaids. Also, get everything together at least a week before the party. I waited until the last minute on a couple things and it was not worth the stress I felt because of it, so heed my advice and get it done early!
5. Have Fun!
Lastly, don’t let the stress get to you. Take a deep breath and remember, this is your best friend and she will love whatever you have planned for her. You asked her what she wanted, you planned it with her bridesmaids, and while every detail may not work out as planned, it will all work out in the end.
Do you have any tips for the perfect bachelorette party?